Today I want to talk about why that many women, especially the ones over 30, are unable to find a man that is good husband material due to cheap sex.
In an article on The Globe And Mail, Margaret Wente says this:
“In a nutshell, over the past few decades, the traditional relationship exchange has broken down. It used to be that men and women each had something the other really needed. Men needed access to sex. Women needed access to resources. Men couldn’t get steady access to sex unless they had resources to offer, so they worked hard for them. The partnership between men and women was a grand bargain that (usually) left both sides better off.”
That’s a very good observation. The relationship between men and women is a trade-off. Men traded their resources for steady sex through the institution of marriage with a simple outcome: reproduction, man happy, woman happy. However, it seems that the woman wasn’t so happy at all.
She felt oppressed being a housewife and wanted more. She wanted to have and do the same things as men; having a job, building a career, get educated, making money, and even joining the military and police force. Thanks to feminism, they did.
Also, they wanted to be sexually liberated. Margaret says:
“Sexual liberation is a fabulous thing – in some ways. But it can also turn men into louts, because women don’t expect much in return for access. Today, most men can have all the sex they want for very little cost – no fancy dinner required.”
Women wanted to be able to ride the cock carousel and, therefore, gave away their strongest weapon for negotiation: the P.
In the past men used to work hard and be good and decent to get access to the vajayjay, which is now given away for free. It’s the same as men giving a away free resources to women. Why should you buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
But it’s even more interesting. And I’d like to start my analysis with a quote from Margaret:
“Since the women’s cartel collapsed, women’s bargaining power has seriously eroded. That’s why so many single women hate Tinder, which has further commodified sex for the benefit of men. Women are just another consumer good in the shop window.”
Now, there is something important to keep in mind here. You say that the current dating market and apps like Tinder have further commodified sex for the benefit of men. This is only partially true and and I will tell you why this is important.
There is a huge group of men whose number of sexual partners is either very small or don’t get any sex at all. This is because apps like Tinder made sure that the top 10% of men in a certain area are accessible by all women for a hookup.
The difference between hookup culture and a culture that is based on ‘no sex before marriage’ – which is still the case in many Islamic countries – is that people tend to aim for their equals. A ‘five’ would probably land a ‘five’ and a ‘ten’ would land another ‘ten’. If a guy is very rich but a 4 on the scale of looks he can probably get an 8. But, generally, people would go for an equal partner to spend the rest of their lives with.
When it comes to Tinder, we have Chad. Chad is a ‘nine’ in the looks department and a total asshole. His greatest mission in life is to keep up with the body count of his best friend Tyrone, who’s also on Tinder.
Together they have screwed most (if not all) women in the dormitory where they live, no matter if they have boyfriends or not. Now they are expanding their ‘cockdom’ / sorry, I mean kingdom, through online dating apps.
But let’s just forget about Tinder for now, and start with casual hookups.
When Chad had a few beers his standards are significantly lower. In other words: when he is sober he’ll tap anything above a ‘seven’, but when he’s drunk he’ll screw everything with a hole in it. Even a pig.
This means that Stacey, who’s a borderline land whale and does a great job hiding it by taking her Instagram photos from a certain angle (you know, from above like she is about to give you a blowjob) which prevent you to see here triple whopper chin. Also, she wears black dresses to cover multiple layers of lard.
She wears a thick layer of fake-up that’d preserve her body better that an Egyptian mummy. She’s has been dating a blue pill simp called Brian – a ‘six’ in looks – who’s not really outgoing, but studies hard and is definitely going to be a great provider. Unfortunately for Brain, Stacey wasn’t ready for commitment. She wanted to be “free,” and to enjoy her times as a student. She dumped Brian.
One night at the bar, drunk Chad turns his attention to Stacey. Why didn’t he never notice that girl before? He thinks she’s quite hot. So, that night, he takes her home and bangs her. “She’s easy,” Chad says to his friend Tyrone. A week later, Stacey is also banged by Tyrone, who likes some ‘phat ass’ anyway.
Stacey’s self-confidence skyrockets now she has had sex with the two most popular guys in the dormitory. She starts dressing differently (like a complete slut) and gets drunk every weekend.
“What did I ever see in that guy. IIeeww… he’s so UGLY,” she says to a friend when her ex-boyfriend Brian walks by on campus. That night she tries to be with Tyrone and Chad again, but she is confronted with some bad news: an legion of first year sorority girls has arrived on campus, which means that these guys have their hands full with fresh meat. They don’t give Stacey the time of the day. Moreover: not a guy in the top 10% of men would go for Stacey, except, maybe, for a drunk one-night-stand.
Deep inside, Stacey knows the truth about her sexual market value, which is diminishing even further because she is getting older. But still, she refuses to give up her high standards when it comes to men. In other words: she rather stays single and lonely, than have a relationship with a lesser man than she is used to.
The thing is: Stacey wants to commit to a man of a certain level that, in reality, would see her as nothing more than a drunk lay. A guy of that level would never commit to her. Of course, according to her and her girlfriends these men who only used her for sex are all “jerks”. Prince white knight is out there, assuming that prince white knight is not only a good, decent guy but as exciting, handsome, adventurous, cool, care-free and popular as Chad.
There are enough guys that are ready to settle with and provide for Stacey, but they are not considered good enough. Of course they aren’t. Because of sexual liberation, ugly and fat women had the opportunity to be screwed by Chads and Tyrones during their twenties. How are they supposed to settle for a Brian?
To give a serious answer: they could settle for a Brain if they would consciously downgrade their standards, which is a very hard thing to do. Especially when society screams at these women:
“You deserve only the best!”
So “Women are just another consumer good in the shop window”? They are another consumer good generally directed at the small percentage of men, because they put themselves there. Women know very well what Tinder is for.
Mark Regnerus, author of the book Cheap Sex, writes:
“Good husband material doesn’t occur naturally, but is instead the product (in part) of socialization, development, and social control. In the domain of sex and relationships men will act as nobly as women collectively demand.”
Come on, man. It has nothing to do with collective demand; it has everything to do with behavior and respect. If women don’t give away their P so easily they would be of higher value in the eyes of men. If a woman behaves like a slut in their twenties, and in their thirties she demands a man to marry her, provide for her, have children with her AND to fully accept her promiscuous behavior in her twenties, then I wonder how successful she will be.
Again, it’s not about the collective demand of women but how much men are willing to tolerate. Good husband material is not appealed by today’s Western women, because these women are out of control.
So, how about this mr. Regnerus: “women will act as rude, manly, arrogant, slutty and, on top of that, become as fat as men collectively tolerate”?
I think, and I can see this right now, that their behavior on the one hand and their demands on the other hand only build resentment in a large group of decent men, who basically feel marginalized and abused. Marginalized because they were passed over when she wanted Chad, and abused because when she’s done with Chad they are expected to become obedient, providing husbands or even to take care of Tyrone’s kids and pay off her student debt (you know, the money she spent on getting shit-faced every Thursday, Friday and Saturday night).
Let’s get back to dating apps.
Just look at the way many of today’s women’s approach to Tinder. Of course they won’t go on a one-night-stand with a simp who’s a 5 in the looks department. For him, she set rules like (and I have seen these on Tinder):
“You have to EARN me”
“We’re going to have a looong conversation before you even think of going on a date with me.”
But when Chad swiped right to her: bye bye rules, and he’ll bang her on the same evening. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. And when Brain finds out about her promiscuous behavior after he had to jump through all kinds of hoops for just kissing her on the cheek, he’s very, very angry.
Margaret ends her article by writing this:
“Time to get our act together, ladies. If we don’t, they won’t either.”
I agree, which is simple: stop riding the cock carousel.
So, what can we do about this? I think there are a few ways to be a happy man in a dysregulated sexual marketplace.
The first option is to pump & dump. But if you’re not a Chad, this will take some work. Also, there are probably better things to do with your time than going out every weekend in search of punani. In this case I’d say; an occasional pump & dump is the way to go, but whatever floats you boat. If you’re an incel and desperately want to have sex, work on it and get it. If I was still in my twenties, I’d actually spend more time doing this. But since I’m older, I’ve decided that I’ve got other stuff to do.
The second option is to STAY AWAY by simply opting out of dating. This is what many MGTOW go for. Especially the monks. It’s simple, yet it might be difficult for men because of the male sex drive and the gravitation towards the feminine. But if you can pull it off and be happy with it, it’s probably the safest option.
The third option is relationships without any expectations. This means that you date women while keeping your expectations to zero. This way you can’t be disappointed about what happens, and you enjoy it as long as it’s fun. I mean, Western women these days are able to take care of themselves, so she won’t die if you leave her. This means that if she starts demanding all kinds of unreasonable stuff than you can just walk out of the door without feeling guilty.
Anyways guys, now women are demanding their beta boyfriends to buy them flowers in exchange for a pet on the head and withholding sex until months into the relationship, even while they are screwing Tyrone on the side, I’m going my own way again.
Have a great weekend!